We often think that life is better on other side! but we forget; that we
are also standing on other side for them! Your life is always at its best,
because it is a result of your actions, your journey, your conditions and
circumstances. comparison with others will not add any values to it; rather it
may make it worst. Irrespective of whichever state of mind, you are in.
Happiness is one of the emotion which is extremely subjective and
totally in our hands, but we end up ruining that in the race of comparison. At
various stages of a life (young, teenager, adult or matured) our happiness is
content until we are not comparing ourselves with others; because we can only
see the results of others in most of the situations. We cannot see the entire
process, struggle, compromises, Journey or path for those results. So, if their
results are great; we think why our results are not that great! but if their
results are bad we leave it or feel better (because we are still comparing our
results with that)!!!
So logically it is not the right comparison. Isn’t it? It is as same as
the different faces everyone has, different lines on everyone’s hands and
different thumb impressions each one of us has.
Most of us will be known to or rather aware about the fact as well; but
sooner or later we also get into this trap and when we realise, we might come
out of it or may get more irritated. So, it becomes important to understand
that: the life is dynamic, not static. This keeps changing with respect to the
multiple factors; some of them are known and visible & some of them are
not!
Things keep changing, situations keep changing, positions keep changing,
we keep changing so do others. The only thing we do not allow to change
is our opinion about others; which we have made in certain transactions of our
past. If these opinions are good; they may not harm you and you will keep
doing more transactions in coming time. But if it is not good; then we tend to
have reservations about the other person and this creates the friction in the
smoothly running life; inside the family’s, inside your business environment,
in the friend circles and in the social circle too. This makes our life
burdened and create more hurdles on the way. Worst part of this; it harms you
and your conditions first. Later it may harm to others or maybe not.
We keep building our opinion based on certain situations and conditions.
Things get changed with the time; but only thing remain behind is our opinion
which has been made based on certain conditions.
Another killing factor is someone else’s perceptions about people or
places!!!
Same rule applies here!!! The one who gives you his or her opinion about
that thing or place; How would that apply on you? You have your own way of
thinking and behavioural pattern; his observations are by his Thinking and
behavioural pattern. Better way is to look at and enjoy whatever you can. Go
with your own self to enjoy; because it’s only you who knows well about
yourself and the taste you like it.
So, to make our own life happy & better! Stop comparing…Live your
own life. You will feel better and will have least complain from yourselves.
It’s your life; your story board…. make it beautiful.
